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Love & Law: Sundaes & Pain Killers

Last night, I found myself venturing to several internet cafes with David (my boyfriend). I had to complete a quiz, and he had something for work. Anyway, we thought “McDonalds at midnight and quizzes” would pair nicely with dollar sundaes. That easy savings sundaes could sweeten a blow of any unsuspected glitches that may detract us from quality sleep before another day of love and law.

I’ll admit I’m a little hard on everyone around me. I mean if David is going to let me use his  spare computer as I have inconveniently left mine at home, a side effect of too many pain killers, a Rocky Balboa face, and a “crowning” wisdom tooth, he should at least remember the password for me to logon. I shouldn’t have to sit there for 10 minutes rehearsing ways to insult him from forgetting that the password is … my … name which he says at least 10 times a day. Unaware this fact, I gawked when he teased, “you don’t know how to spell your own name?” My birth name was the very thing delaying me from success on my quiz. Then I thought, ‘aha! look at the Universe! David, having used my name as a password logon to his spare computer, spoke to the Universe, and the Universe created this very moment.’ Before moving on, you must understand that this trail of thoughts is a sign of anxiety and pain killers. Instead of going into one of my famous monologues, I sat there calmly with a smile while he worked to get me up and running. Anxiety was best left unsaid … in this case.

Finally logged on at 11p, I struggled to sign on to Desire 2 Learn, a site where law students can find a syllabus and task list, with no desire to learn a new way to live a stress free life. I figured that, no matter the circumstances, between the excruciating pain of my wisdom tooth and abscess, the upkeep of my personal relationship, and the further branding and growth of, I signed up for this. I signed up to have it all, to excel at all things I’ve set out to do, no matter how difficult it may become, no matter how many dollar sundaes I may devour at 11p, no matter how long it takes for me to log on to my next task meanwhile mentally check out of love and into law. I feel like the things I love are perhaps worth suffering for … The freedom to “life, liberty and the pursuit of happiness.”

I find it interesting that the Declaration of Independence discusses the aforementioned right  to “life, liberty, and happiness” in the same breadth (yes breadth not breath) it discusses the freedom to abolish any government that causes unnecessary suffering. Then I thought: Now what does this mean to me and my life? What must I abolish to live a life of liberty and happiness? Are my governing thoughts to succeed causing suffering? And why am I inclined to suffer to succeed? Am I the only one asking myself these questions? With much insight, 39 men agreed to include “Mankind is disposed to suffering” when they wrote their grievances against King George III. Not only that, but they were willing to fight for their freedoms using the poorest quality of guns as we know it today–muskets. That’s some determination! Bows and arrows are more effective than that. Anyway, the thought of loading a musket with gun  powder, in times of war, would’ve had me lay down my gun and surrender on the battlefield. I cannot imagine what kind of patience and focus it must take for me to overcome suffering with such a lowly gun. Is this the kind of attitude that can lead to success in love and law? As it seems, it will require that I use the knowledge and skills that I now possess to succeed, no matter how poor the quality. Some are better than others. Some I hope will overrule others … insults versus effective communication with insults being the plaintiff.

“… and accordingly all experience hath shewn, that mankind are more disposed to suffer, while evils are sufferable, than to right themselves by abolishing the forms to which they are accustomed.” (source)

Could love and law be necessary evils worth suffering for?





Nikki’s Take on The Value of Women Networking| Part One

Dream Girl Movement, Destined Image and have taken on the challenge to creating posts every week dedicated to women, networking and entrepreneurship. This week’s theme is The Value of Women Networking. What do you think about the idea of networking? What is the value of women networking?

I’ve attended several conferences, some geared towards women and business and others centered on business and personal development. I’m always most fascinated with women who have found a way to manage being executives, wives, and mothers. Someone once tried to convince me that I could NOT have it all. That I would either sacrifice for a wonderful marriage or career.

Yet I keep meeting women who are conquering it all, who have it all. They are playing the roles of an executive, a wife, a mother, daughter, sister, confidant, friend … and so forth. I believe God designed us—women–to be great task managers, naturally, but we are reaching new horizons each day. As Devine Bowers, CEO/Founder of Destined Image, has often shared with me, “Women were created to be helpers to our husbands, but not limited to this task.” I love that!! Devine often SHARES the dynamics of being a wife in oppose to her other roles as a project manager (at one of the largest banks in our country) and a mommy to two young children. She explains further that “it is about knowing what God wants you to do in each role … that is how you find direction.” Even further, I believe that’s how you find defense against distractions, focus, and discipline. Ultimately, with our conversations, I’m finding out that this is the key to earning/having it all—getting in touch with the Spirit and letting it guide you. As you can see, I found these things through our conversations, through building a rapport with Devine that allowed for genuine SHARING.

I’ve taken Devine’s advice. I’m marching onward to having it all as I type this. She inspires me daily with her tenacity and commitment to all that she does. But if it wasn’t for our network, our relationship with one another, our boldness to speak freely with one another about life, entrepreneurship and our personal relationships, we wouldn’t be able to FUEL each other with INSPIRATION and or EMPOWER one another. All of this comes with SHARING(networking), and that’s what networking should mainly be about. Not one trying to create a leveraging situation or superficially showing interest for personal gain. It shouldn’t be about pretentiousness or shallowness when we—women–get together to SHARE in! It should be about SHARING genuine stories of inspiration, resources to pull yet one more person along to their next level of greatness, and connecting with people who speak to our personal/professional journey. That’s where the wealth lies.

“Wealth is generated with the many uncomfortable conversations one is willing to have.” -Tim Ferris

Furthermore, if you haven’t realized it, networking is SHARING, EMPOWERING, and CONNECTING that leads to INSPIRATION, RESOURCES, and SUCCESS. Without sharing, how can we have it all anyway? Think about that.

With that being said, I now invite you to have a conversation with me about the value of women networking. I’m also extending the invitation for you to connect with myself, owner of; Devine Bowers, owner/founder of Destined Image; Rachel D, owner of Dream Girl Movement, and other entrepreneurs with whom you may share, empower, and connect. Read more about this June 29th event here:

Thanks for reading.


TFH Campaign


Greetings, Panachers! I’ve been away too long. Yes; I know. I’ve been consumed with my bow ties–designing and bringing them to life. To add, I’ve been organizing this The Female Haberdasher Bow Tie Campaign. I’m raising $1000 for manufacturing, marketing and advertising. I’m taking my neckwear business to a new level of success. And I need your love and support as I continue this journey.

To add, TFH was placed in a boutique about a month ago, Dupp & Swat of Charlotte, NC. I’m so excited that people can now experience my bow ties in person. This has been my motivation to strive to get these bow ties in as many boutiques and department stores as possible.

I know you’re ever so curious about my love life. It’s been all over the place. Lol. It’s hard to maintain any kind of constant when you’re moving and shaking all the time. But I’m going to get it right one day. You just wait.

Furthermore, my life, more stories, and pictures are to come … I’ll keep you posted and will begin to post more often.

Thanks for your patience and your invested interest in Nikkipanache! Xo Soon!

Hope you had a Happy Valentine’s!

On Twitter & IG @Nikkipanache

Winter Bow Tie | 2nd Day of Christmas Special

seasonal bow tie

Last week, here in Charlotte, we experienced 70-degree weather. Though I’m dreaming of a white Christmas, I know we, Charlotteans, won’t be getting snow any time soon. Continue reading

Bow Tie Thursday | Meet The Modern Outdoorsman

This week, I, The Female Haberdasher created–The Modern Outdoorsman–a bow tie made of herringbone, tweed and duck fabrics. So proud of its look and feel, I just had to share.

You might ask, “What makes The Modern Outdoorsman so special?”

Well here are THREE reasons as to why The Modern Outdoorsman is so darn special!

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Black Friday Offer–The Female Haberdasher offers FREE Shipping at Bow Tie Shop

You don’t have to stand in long lines or endure poor weather conditions when shopping with

The Female Haberdasher this Black Friday.

Now until Tuesday, November 23, 2012 midnight, TFH offers Free Shipping (domestic).

Use coupon code: SHIP2ME to take advantage of this offer when shopping for your next favorite bow tie!

TFH designs freestyle bow ties for men and women. Some are trendy like the purple leopard print bow tie which is now being featured. Others are classic like the black and white herringbone bow tie that is fitting for office.

At TFH bow tie shop, there’s a link for custom-design bow ties that can be created from fabric that YOU request. Say for example if you’re looking for a purple and metallic bow tie to complete your NYE outfit, you can request that using the item reserved for custom bow tie designs.

TFH will continue to list new items, so if you don’t see anything that you like now, check with us for future orders.

For more information on The Female Haberdasher and private collection offers, email me: Private Collection deals allow buyers to purchase 5 bow ties or more at a reasonable price.

My Election Night: Tell Us @CurtisWalls “How Hot Do You Like It?” LOL

What started out as a blogging meeting with the intent to watch the results from the 2012 Presidential Election turned out to be more! More fun. More laughs. More of an event than a meeting.

At around 7:35p, I met with @Nxl21Charlotte @CurtisWalls for a casual meeting at Smokey Bones. The place was pretty dead, so I thought it would be perfect for discussion and to enjoy the suspense of election night. However, it just so happened that Smokey Bones recently turned their audio system, so that it excluded (what I call) the portable speaker box. You know the kind that you use to listen in on sporting events at bars? Well they had none, so it was on to the next bar!

So we ventured a few miles away to Fox & Hound at Northlake. But they had no boxes either. Through the cold, we walked to Chili’s who claimed that they were NOT to play anything but sporting events. Really? It was only the most historical, political night for the next 4 years that we, the nation, would experience–when Obama won a re-election. Chili’s was a huge loss that night based on their failure to acknowledge anything but sports. Got to do better!

So we finally returned to Fox & Hound for apps, beer and a mini election party, and that’s when the fun began.

Without unleashing all details, I’ll grant you a few highlights, quotes, and more!

Exhibit A:

Me: How do you like your hotdog?

Curtis: I feel uncomfortable with you asking me that!

Me: *side-eye*

By the way, this conversation ended in “with sweet onions, mustard, ketchup, and or chili/slaw” for all of you who are wondering! But his initial comment … Well you know … You’re smart!”

At one point, we commenced a challenge involving extra drops of Tabasco sauce. Hmm … No further comment there.

Around 11p, I hit the karaoke stage to croon Maxwell’s “Fortunate,” yet it didn’t sound anything like Maxwell. It was a shaky performance which I believed startled all the barmaids, wait staff, and bar folk alike. I mean I tried really hard, and I thought it was going to be a an awesome performance since I practiced just before … oh who am i kidding?! It was less than stellar. Like a good sport, Curtis hid in the corner, grinned, and laughed. Sigh.

The night ended with a final discussion surrounding the CNN’s reportings, analyzing and keeping close watch of electoral and popular votes, and a challenge to see who could hold the Thinker Pose, Alpha-style, the longest! In my mind, I won!

Well that was my election night. Productive. Fun and eventful. I was glad to witness history, Obama’s re-election (2 TERMSSS), same-sex marriage legalized in MD (my insurance policy), and CO committing to growing more trees in order to save our planet Earth. Snickers*

Find me on Twitter @Nikkipanache

My Pair-Rhee in Charlotte

I’ve never been to France; however, this is how I envision one of their quaint lounges to be–designed with vintage furniture and reclaimed fabrics and filled with lots of smoke and potent brown spirits. In my mind, this is France made perfect for me. Though it may be until “soon” before I see “Pair-Rhee,” I’ve got one of semblance here in my backyard–Red on 28th. Check out my good times with friends at this bar and hookah lounge, nestled in the NoDa neighborhood of Charlotte.






I spent Labor Day in uptown Charlotte to get a piece of this Democratic National Convention 2012 action. In this picture, the crowd was swoon by Reverend Al Sharpton (not pictured here) on stage. Although he usually has powerful words to impart, I’m always impressed by his hair’s staying power!


Last night at Mez, Epicenter

                                         Last night at Mez, Epicenter, uptown Charlotte.

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Art Market–Support Local Charlotte Artists–Neighborhood Theatre

Tour Kanvas Lounge-See Artsy Video

Uptown Upscale Martini Lounge


Good day, Panachers!! I’m introducing you to one of my new favorite spots in Charlotte–Kanvas. I’m always looking for the hottest, coolest ish around. And recently I found this place. What I like most are their drinks. Whatever, I’ll admit: “I’m a lush.” Lucky for you, this ‘Lush’ has great taste. Check out their martini list, stiff or strong, it can be shaken or stirred to your taste. See you there next time.

The venue is now booking for corporate retreats, meetings, and other special occasions.
Wed – Sat, 6p-2a
525 e 6th Street, #117
Charlotte, NC
Al Moore (704) 293-1133

Just underneath Court 6

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Elle VJ Boutique Shoe Party–Irregular Choice and Off the Beaten Track Shoe Collections

Quaint and cozy NoDa neighborhood is home to Elle VJ Boutique. This clothing store has urban appeal with a dab of chic!

Recently, ElleVJ hosted their first shoe party to present two collections—Irregular Choice and Off the Beaten Track.

Irregular Choice Heels are flirty and fun, decorated in can’t-be-missed oversized flowers and elevated by glass, cone heels. The bright colors are perfect additions for your Spring/Summer shoe collections.

Furthermore, I could really step into contemporary clogs with Off the Beaten Track. These heels speak ‘high country’ right into my sole! Check out the wooden platforms and studs.

View both shoe collections in our Elle VJ Boutique trailer. For more information on shoes and where to get them,
Elle VJ Boutique





Don’t miss out. 

Fight Lab Promotions’ MMA CAGE FIGHTING returns to The Grady Cole Center THIS Saturday night April 16th at 7pm.

Come find out why MMA is the fastest growing spectator sport in the world today !!!

Online 20% Discount Coupon Code: MONSTER


Premium Cage Side Seating Available ONLY through The Pit Boss @ 704-400-8879

Fight Lab Web Site – Buy Tickets Here

Watch clips here.

Foodie Alert: Sadie’s Soulful Southern

For the first time (and against my diet), I visited Sadie’s Soul Food restaurant for dinner this week. I ordered the grilled Talipia, seasoned with lemon pepper, traditional styled yams (without marshmallows), thick and creamy mac-n-cheese with cornbread. I know … a lot of calories, but it was well worth sacrificing a daunting calorie-based diet. Entering the establishment, I was greeted with big smiles and a warm welcome not only by Sadie’s own but also by those dining-in. I really had no complaints. The food was made-to-order, and the people were simply ‘what the doctor ordered’ especially this hectic Tuesday. Here’s a slideshow of what I devoured. Go check ’em out. Happy Foodie Alert.

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Sadie’s Soulful Southern restaurant

5708 N Sharon Amity Rd# H

Charlotte, NC 28215

(704) 532-5570

Sadie’s Soulful Restaurant Facebook Fan Page

St. Patty’s Day–Charlotte Celebrations

“It’s my birrrrthhhddaayyy.” Ok, I had to get that out before sharing with some informative articles on why we do what we do on St. Patty’s each year and what’s going on around Clt for the big day. So pick a shamrock (wear it), flaunt your green, and drink Guinness. Here’s what’s poppington around my way … see you around, kiddos

All About St. Patrick’s Day, the tradition and folklore. Find it here–A National Geographic Article

St. Patrick’s Day Parade is . Saturday March 19, 2011 starting at 11:00am the streets will be lined with dedicated Charlottians watching the best the city has to offer.  The parade will step off at 9th Street & Tryon St and over 100 units march south to 3rd St. & Tryon St.Read more: 15th Annual Charlotte St. Patrick’s Day Parade

If you missed Rich & Bennet’s St. Patty’s Bar Crawl, check out Elevate’s Picks by Nikki Wilson

Also, here are Clt daily happy hours! Alright have fun and avoid getting PINCHED. later!



Hair? Make Up? P Sak? Check! Don’t Be Left Out this CIAA

Upgrade yourself and your VIPs to the most luxurious gift bags on Earth, Panache Saks.

These bags include make up cosmetics, make up tools, and chocolate covered treats, compliments of Bill & Coo Cosmetics. You could even spot these bags at some of your CIAA events being handed to women all over Charlotte as free gift bags. Just in case you’re not lucky enough to snag a Panache Sak whilst partying this week, you can find more of them at these spots.


Make Up Artist Joy Randall. Owner of Flawless Make Up Art Studio.

Flawless Studios (704) 975-9526.

Call for CIAA Make Up Specials. Appointments are going fast

Check out her blog.




Hair Stylist Talia Massey. Owner of Chic’lectic Salon.

Ask for CIAA Specials. Mention NikkiPanache for the best prices!

Salon Central, Independence Blvd.

(704) 779-4522

Talia is also a licensed Make Up Artist. Her work was featured in Fashion’s Night Out, 2010.


Happy Hour Friday LineUp –Charlotte’s Goodies, Oldies, and Newbies

TGIF, Panache Fam. It’s Friday, and I know we’re looking forward to a good time tonight. And you should be preparing your outfits and picking ties for Bartender’s Ball on Sunday as well. I digress. Well in attempt to be seen at all the hottest joints around town including upcoming CIAA parties, here are a few happy hour specials for you to attend, compliments of Trekk your neighborhood or visit the latest spot in someone else’s hood to see what’s poppington! Here’s today’s roster!

Charlotte Happy Hour Specials

Search Charlotte bars and restaurants offering happy hour specials with great drink deals and food specials. Find the best happy hours in Charlotte and read user reviews and recommendations while planning your next happy hour!

Friday Happy Hour Specials in Charlotte

911 E.Morehead Street, Charlotte, NC 28203
Neighborhood: Second Ward
(704) 377-3808

Mobile Coupon: 1/2 off a Appetizer

Friday’s Specials
All day – Pint Night – all pints reduced significantly. $4 Whynatte latte drinks and shots

210 E Trade, Suite B-120 Charlotte, NC 28202, Charlotte, NC 28202
Neighborhood: Center City
(704) 971-4440

Friday’s Specials
All day – Friday Special Daily $6.99 Lunch Special: Tuna Melt

Category: Sports Bars

1524 East Blvd, Charlotte, NC 28203
Neighborhood: South End
(704) 370-1177

Friday’s Specials
All day – $4 House Vodka, $5 Wine by the glass and the best fish fry in town.

Category: Restaurants

1520 South Blvd, Charlotte, NC 28203
Neighborhood: South End
(704) 919-0282

Friday’s Specials
All day – $5.00 Redbull and Vodkas LIVE DJ

Category: Lounges

210 E Trade St, Ste D-164, Charlotte, NC 28202
Neighborhood: Uptown
(704) 716-9300

Friday’s Specials
All day – The best Friday night drink deals are at Strike City. $3 SweetWater 420 & Shocktop Drafts all day and night as well as our Friday Bomb Special… All Bombs are only $5 from open ’till close!!!

Category: Sports Bars

301 East 7th Street, Charlotte, NC 28202
Neighborhood: First Ward
(704) 374-1700

Friday’s Specials
All day – $2 beer of the month

15235 John J Delaney Dr, Charlotte, NC 28277
Neighborhood: Belle Vista
(704) 544-8902

Friday’s Specials
All day – Daily beer and drink specials including $2 drafts on Tuesdays!

445 West Trade Street, Charlotte, NC 28202
Neighborhood: Center City
(704) 334-7088

Friday’s Specials
11:00 AM – 11:00 PM – $2.50 imports, $5 Stoli and Red Bull vodka drinks

208 North Tryon Street, Charlotte, NC 28202
Neighborhood: Uptown
(704) 333-5554

Friday’s Specials
4:00 PM – 7:00 PM – Bartenders choice, $2 domestic bottles, $6 mixed drinks

127 West Trade Street, Charlotte, NC 28202
Neighborhood: Center City
(704) 347-4870

Friday’s Specials
5:00 PM – 2:00 AM – Ladies get in FREE, $2 Lite beers, $3 well drinks, $5 Red Bull vodkas

Fight Lab Promotions–Charlotte’s Premiere MMA Entertainment

Met the toughest guys in Charlotte today (j/k)–Kenny, Mike, and Tom of Fight Lab Promotions.  We hashed it up about their lightweights, upcoming events, and FLP’s ever increasing fan base. Check out the videos, and hit up Fight Lab Promotions.

Cody Wilsom MMA EpiCentre

Fight Lab Pro Highlights

More details to follow in next month’s Elevate issue.

Rush Hour Retreat at San Antonio’s

This place rocks as always! Yesterday, I tried their lettuce wraps, and of course I had plenty of margaritas (w/sugar coating the rim). So today, I would like to share with you their Rush Hour Retreat, as posted on My Uptown Fun:

Avoid the traffic and start your weekends off right as San Antonio becomes your after work retreat the last Friday of the month.  This Modern Mexican restaurant and Tequila Bar offers a tempting array of over 50 varieties of tequilas. Featuring daily drink specials: $3 Coronas, $2 Sangria and $1 Margaritas.  Enjoy FREE appetizers featuring signature menu items.  Live Music and Giveaways.  Admission is FREE!!

4331 Barclay Downs Dr.
Charlotte, NC 28211
Neighborhood: South Park

(704) 364-9334


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